Kara, Some people are very ignorant. Do not let them bring you down. They have no right to judge you or your situation. I have appreciated your honesty with the difficulties you are having right now. Our daughter adjusted really quick but we were either A-lucky or B-her foster family did a wonderful job during our meetings letting Eun Jin see that we were all family. I can only imagine how hard it is for most of the babies and families... I shudder at what we could have been through. Bee will need an adjustment time but before you know it she will "click" and be a part of the family. She is just struggling right now with all the changes. Nights are probably the worst because she figures out that the day time was not just a play date and that yes she is still stuck with you. I know that sounds harsh right now, stuck with you, but that is most likely how she is seeing it. I know from your blog that you have a sweet and generous heart. Your daughter will need a little time to figure that out and then she will be thrilled to be with you. Good Luck in the next few weeks! (Do what I do-delete the comments as soon as you can tell they are negative and don't give them a second thought.)
I can't believe someone did that, I am so sorry :( Please don't stop posting of your experiences, reading things like this is going to be so helpful to us when we are in this boat down the road.
Kara, you hang in there. There are lots of us out here more than willing to help you. You are doing everything you can for Bee and for R. You are in a tough position. Things will work out. The will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not comfort you! All of you have opened your hearts to Bee and she is a most precious gift! God bless you!
I've been thinking about you this morning as I get ready to take my son in for a tonsillectomy. I'm scared, nervous, yet somewhat relieved about this, so my emotions are high. Here are two things I thought of. I'm sure the next few days are going to be very rough for me, so I'll be checking in to see how you are doing. 1) As far as Riley goes and his comments. Try to think of them positively. First, he will endure and can be proud of himself. Second, he will be raised with a situation happening right now where he will understand his sister better or some future situation of his own. Finally, this could be a memorable time for him where he can tell Bee when their older all about how she was when she first came home. He can pass down these wonderful (well, maybe not so wonderfull now) memories to her.
2) I journaled all of my feelings. I haven't done that in quite some time. So, I realized this morning how all of the frustration, tiredness, doubt, even depression has gone away. I felt like I had post-partum depression. I journaled that. So, maybe journal while you are up? What about video taping it? You can get extra footage of little Bee when she first came home AND maybe her being able to listen and watch your experience when she is older may come in to play somehow with her. When I was in the hospital with my 2nd son. I recorded my feelings on video about how scared I was about losing him. I explained and showed him what it was like for me to be in that one room alone for months. It definitely made me feel better.
I hope these might help you. Good luck, keep us posted.
Some people are just so mean!!! We were in Korea when someone left me a nasty comment. I was so sick and had been since we left. Someone gave me down the road about not going out and expirence the food, ect.. I just couldn't believe it. Of course they didn't leave their name!! Hang in there we had the same problems with Noah and it does get better!
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Kara,
Some people are very ignorant. Do not let them bring you down. They have no right to judge you or your situation.
I have appreciated your honesty with the difficulties you are having right now.
Our daughter adjusted really quick but we were either A-lucky or B-her foster family did a wonderful job during our meetings letting Eun Jin see that we were all family.
I can only imagine how hard it is for most of the babies and families...
I shudder at what we could have been through.
Bee will need an adjustment time but before you know it she will "click" and be a part of the family.
She is just struggling right now with all the changes. Nights are probably the worst because she figures out that the day time was not just a play date and that yes she is still stuck with you.
I know that sounds harsh right now, stuck with you, but that is most likely how she is seeing it.
I know from your blog that you have a sweet and generous heart. Your daughter will need a little time to figure that out and then she will be thrilled to be with you.
Good Luck in the next few weeks!
(Do what I do-delete the comments as soon as you can tell they are negative and don't give them a second thought.)
Forget that person! What an idiot!
I can't believe someone did that, I am so sorry :( Please don't stop posting of your experiences, reading things like this is going to be so helpful to us when we are in this boat down the road.
Kara, you hang in there. There are lots of us out here more than willing to help you. You are doing everything you can for Bee and for R. You are in a tough position. Things will work out. The will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not comfort you! All of you have opened your hearts to Bee and she is a most precious gift! God bless you!
Hang in there guys! Our thoughts and prayers are with you during the settling in period...
Shame on them.
I've been thinking about you this morning as I get ready to take my son in for a tonsillectomy. I'm scared, nervous, yet somewhat relieved about this, so my emotions are high. Here are two things I thought of. I'm sure the next few days are going to be very rough for me, so I'll be checking in to see how you are doing.
1) As far as Riley goes and his comments. Try to think of them positively. First, he will endure and can be proud of himself. Second, he will be raised with a situation happening right now where he will understand his sister better or some future situation of his own. Finally, this could be a memorable time for him where he can tell Bee when their older all about how she was when she first came home. He can pass down these wonderful (well, maybe not so wonderfull now) memories to her.
2) I journaled all of my feelings. I haven't done that in quite some time. So, I realized this morning how all of the frustration, tiredness, doubt, even depression has gone away. I felt like I had post-partum depression. I journaled that. So, maybe journal while you are up? What about video taping it? You can get extra footage of little Bee when she first came home AND maybe her being able to listen and watch your experience when she is older may come in to play somehow with her. When I was in the hospital with my 2nd son. I recorded my feelings on video about how scared I was about losing him. I explained and showed him what it was like for me to be in that one room alone for months. It definitely made me feel better.
I hope these might help you. Good luck, keep us posted.
Some people are just so mean!!! We were in Korea when someone left me a nasty comment. I was so sick and had been since we left. Someone gave me down the road about not going out and expirence the food, ect.. I just couldn't believe it. Of course they didn't leave their name!! Hang in there we had the same problems with Noah and it does get better!
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