Thursday, June 10, 2010
Seriously...
Bee has been home now for 12 days now and she is sleeping so good at night. During the day though it is insanity in our house. Between her screaming at the top of her lungs the minute I put her down to Riley telling me on an hourly basis that he wants to send her back it just gets unbearable at times and I want to scream. In the car while we are driving she is the one who is well behaved. She just sits there in her car seat and plays with her toy and he usually sits in his car seat telling me that she can't have her blanket because it has soccer balls on it and that means it is his and she can't have baby toys because they are his. When we are walking in a parking lot and I have her in the Ergo, he gets mad because her feet are sticking out and getting in the way. The jealousy and the anger is constant with him and while I understand this is a big adjustment for him and completely normal, at times it makes everything 10 times worse. We are going to have to have a major talk with him and tell him that everything he is feeling is ok but it's not ok for him to talk mean to her or take her toys away. As far as Bee goes, her teeth are still making there way in. I saw 2 that popped through finally, but the other two are really causing a lot of pain and I can't wait until they are through. She is eating great and I was trying to switch her to milk , however I think she might have and allergy to it just like Riley. I started putting milk in with the formula a couple days ago and she started to spit up a little a couple of times. Then she woke up with this thing on her knee that I thought was a bug bite. I have tried different cortizone creams and benadryl cream and nothing will make it go down. Then today I noticed a couple more smaller ones on her arm and it looked a little like hives. I fed her a bottle at lunch time and 20 minutes later in the video store, she threw up all over me. She has never done that before. And I noticed on the way home that after she had the bottle her thing on her knee got even bigger. So I am stopping the milk and just using formula right now until I figure out what I can put her on because I don't want to put her on Soy milk. I might just have to make her homemade almond milk and then get her to eat goat yogurt with Riley for the other nutrients. Parenting is never dull!!! Also she will not let me put her down and that is creating some stress because obviously there are times when I have to put her down. I can wear her in the Ergo but I can't do that when I cook because she grabs everything. And when I take a shower, I put her in the pack n play in front of the shower door and leave it open while I take a shower. She sits there and screams ( and I mean SCREAMS) the whole time I am in there. And that is REALLY frustrating !!! I mean, I have to take a shower ! Jesse is coming home tonight so I hope to have both kids in bed by 9:30 and to watch a movie with him. Although I'm sure Riley will want to stay up later to see him. So that's the update, sorry no pictures. Ohhh I almost forgot! I came home today from the store to find a snake guarding my back door. He was trapped inside my garage and he will not leave!! Now he is just camped out on the water heater. ...... Seriously!!!
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No, never a dull moment with you! Did the snake really need to jump on the bandwagon though ??!!
Sorry to hear about Riley. I hope your talk goes well. I also hope that eventually things let up so that you can spend time with him too - some of this is probably him throwing his big brother wieght around, but he is also probably trying to get your attention too...
I hope you are also able to get time for yourself if that is possible. Wishing you luck that movie night happens with your honey tonight.
Oh my goodness! Seriously?!? A snake on top of everything else (my worst nightmare by the way so you get huge points for dealing with that).
A suggestion - take it or leave it...can Riley sit and play on the bathroom floor and you put Ashley in her pack n play further away from the bathroom (where you don't hear her scream but since Riley's w/you she's safe). I know it's hard for her to be away from you but she feels separated regardless and you could really use 10 minutes to shower in peace, if not fully alone.
It took my son 2 weeks to realize we were really keeping his sister and start to bond with her. Though he wasn't outwardly against her he was freaked out by her at first but it got better. Of course she wasn't getting into his stuff yet. Just know that they will love each other eventually. You are all in our prayers!
hey there Kara,
I feel for you. We are anticipating our Alex will have the same reaction when Michael comes home. A friend recommended the book "siblings without rivalry". I have started reading it, and I do like it, and recommend it. I know that's about the last thing you have time for, but if you do get it, you can quickly scan the high points.
good luck! It will all even out with time. Brooke from our group had the same thing happen too.
Oh Kara. Zachary was very jealous at first and his whole personality changed. It was sad and frustrating. He still can have a mean side when it comes to Adam but things are much better. We are trying to teach him that when he has had enough to walk away do not do anything mean. Good luck with your talk. I hope that it works for you.
Your snake would have freaked me out. I hate snakes.
Hang in there it will get better!
Hi Kara!
My daughter Lily has been home from Korea only 8 days and I am experiencing the same frustration with the crying every time I have to put her down. I know she was held by her foster mom all the time and I just can't make that happen! I have two older kids (7 & 8) and a ton of housework to do, not to mention showering too:) It's so hard. I do try to let her have time in her pack and play and her walker so she gets used to the idea that she can be by me but not in my arms all the time. When I read your post, though, I really related with the frustration. Take Care,
Beth in Seattle (I don't blog but I found you through Sarah B)
You are doing great, Kara! It's hard adjusting... especialy for you doing it alone during the week.
See if you can email a photo of Bee's spots to your pediatrician. We did that with our son and found out that he had hives... strawberry related. I hope that you can get them healed up soon as they say hives are itchy and annoying.
I'm sure having Jesse home will help Riley out. It'll also give you time to work on correcting his behavior. Our son tried the ignoring route, but is softening up now (9 months later.)
Our daughter wanted to be in my arms all the time. At about 6 months home that started going away, but she still wants to know where I am and will get pouty if left to play by herself for more than 10 minutes.
Hang in there. I hope that you have a wonderful weekend!
A snake on top of everything else?! Oh man! I'm a little behind on your blog, so I'm hope things are getting better and better every day, Kara. Thinking about you!
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